Reviewing: The Four Tendecies

Hey guys what is up welcome back to my blog I’m so thankful that you guys took the time out of your day to read my blog post. Hope you all are safe from the COVID-19 and having a great 2021. This book contains some of the most basic knowledge that humanity absolutely needs to have. I was very impressed from the start and up until the very end.

The book is divided into four parts, one for each of the tendencies as they are discussed, dissected and dived deep into for the readers so that they can understand each of the four tendencies and learn more about people and how to deal with them.

The book starts off by explaining all the four tendecies in brief. The division is made in the basis of people following expectations, two mainly, outer and inner expectations. The tendencies being Upholder, Questioner, Obliger and Rebel. There is a quiz in the book which anyone can take to understand their personality and what tendency they belong to. The results might surprise you so you need full self awareness to answer the questions correctly and to understand how the answer you get is correct as well. The quiz can be taken on happiercast.com/quiz as well so go with whichever you pick.

I took the quiz myself and I was surprised with the answer, ‘Rebel’. I genuinely thought that the thing was broken and that a simple quiz was no one to qualify me as a Rebel and then I stopped myself, realizing that I was acting exactly like a Rebel, resisting outer expectation of me being a Rebel. It took a while but I got back to the book and read through it until I got to the Rebel part and boy I was excited reading it. As I read through I understood why I was a Rebel. I wasn’t a rebel in the classic sense of it instead I was a Rebel in my own way. Let me explain, I live a disciplined life, I have a checklist of tasks that I need to complete each day, I wake up and go to sleep at the same time each day, everything like that. I sat for a while and the realization hit me, I was doing this because it was different from what teens my age were doing. Everyone told me that what I was doing was different or weird or unnatural and that was what drove me, the ‘I’ll do what I want to do’ attitude of the rebels. I blog because I like it but, I blood regularly because people tell me that writing isn’t a career. Same for social media, people demonize it or tell me that it’s only to share your life and so I resist and share only thoughts and writings on there. This rebel attitude is also what pushed me to take a disciplined life on because people expected me to be rebellious and I wasn’t someone who was going to give people what they wanted. This self awareness led me to understand that I was a Rebel all thanks to Gretchen Rubin.

The book ultimately is a self help book which can help you be accountable to yourself and can help you get into the habits you want to get into while also teaching you how to deal with people of the different tendencies. Once you read the book you learn to profile and classify people into the four tendencies quickly and that helps you in dealing with them correctly and make great relationships whether it was at home or work or anywhere else. The in depth research that Gretchen provides also helps tremendously in people understanding other people and their tendencies. All in all my opinion is that everyone should read the book atleast once and learn to classify people. A must read for everyone, the book can be highly helpful to everyone and is for everyone so don’t think you don’t need it. You definetly do, but the choice is upto you, if you want to be better at communication and building relationships then get the book.

So that is it for this post guys hope you got some value from this.  Thank you guys for reading to the end hit me up on Instagram and Twitter with your thoughts and if you have any ideas on what I should write about. Stay safe from the COVID-19. Thank you again and I’ll see you all next week.